Thursday, February 19, 2015

10 Things I've Learned Since Turning 25- Part I

I turned the big 25 recently, and it got me thinking about the common things 20-somethings go through. So here are some things I've learned now that I'm half way through my twenties that might be beneficial for those who haven't experienced these issues yet or relatable to some of you out there:

1.)  When you hit 20 age isn't a factor anymore- You know in high school when you thought you were a hot shot because you were a sophomore and they were freshmen? Yeah, one year difference is nothing in the twenties age group. The numbers just jumble together and everyone in the same decade is one and the same. There's no superiority, or rather at this point in life, there's nothing to be upset about if you're confused with a 25 yr. old when you're 20. It's all the same, really.

 I remember several years back when I had recently started working at a job and my  26 yr. old co-worker, at the time, asked if I was around her age. I was miffed. I said, “No. I’m 21.” And she just said, “Oh.” And that was the end of it. You know how silly I sounded? When you’re in your twenties, everyone from 20-29 is your age.  No need to be upset that you’re compared to someone “old.” Adults don’t get picky about age. We’re all the same age if we’re in the same decade.

2.) You realize it's important to take care of yourself- that doesn't mean you do it, but you become self-conscious of how what you eat affects your health later on in life. I definitely believe God wants us to take care of ourselves physically, so this one is really important to act upon. I've been taking the time to cut back on my eating out spree (yeah, it was bad.) Exercise and better eating habits are a must at this age.

   You will most likely have a quarter-life crisis, and that’s okay-  For those who don't know what that is, it's similar to a mid-life crisis, but called a quarter life crisis because you've reached a quarter of your lifespan, if you live to be a hundred.  I began my quarter-life crisis when I hit 24. I had never experienced anything like it. All of a sudden I looked back over the “years” (sounds silly, but it’s true) and I lamented over them. Had I done everything I needed to? No, not in my opinion. I analyzed my life, noting how I wasted four good years. I looked at where other 20-somethings were at at my age and compared myself to them. Why did I still have an old vehicle? How come I didn’t have a house? And then I would become discouraged. It’s a vicious cycle that you can get caught up in and continue in, unless you decide to do something about it. And that’s exactly what I did and what made it a good crisis. I realized those material things weren't important and instead turned my attention to spending my time more wisely and setting reasonable and God-given goals. Now every time that feeling looms over me, I remind myself of my goals, analyze how I spend my time, and assure myself that everything is going to be okay because I'm following God's will, so I’m on the right path. When I do that, those feelings disappear. They'll keep coming back, but you just have to keep on fighting them.

4.)    You will find yourself highly annoyed with teens and feel a bit pompous in comparison to them- get rid of that attitude right away. Yes, their maturity level is way different from ours and they speak and laugh as loudly as possible to get attention, but love them anyway. Teach them the way they should be as they reach adulthood. Remember, you too once were a teen and probably acted exactly the same way. They’ll mature, and you can help them out by being a much-needed mentor to them.

5.) You can't be cheap anymore- When you're a teen or a poor college student, you're cheap. Period. You buy ramen noodles, you buy the cheapest nail polish on the market (if you're a female), the cheapest gifts, the cheapest food (aka junk food), and you buy cheap clothes. I don't mean clothes from the thrift store either. I mean you buy clothing that will last you a couple of months before you have to trash it. But now that you're an adult, you've realized only teens go cheap, because buying cheap means you look cheap. I've found this to be true with clothing. When I buy cheap jeans, I can count on looking like I'm wearing a soggy diaper within six months. Whereas, when I force myself to buy the more expensive product, I fork out a lot of money, but know it's worth it in the end because I am  saving money in the end since it lasts longer and doesn't need to be replaced quickly.

God commands us to be wise with our money, and being wise doesn't equate to being cheap. In the long run, you'll end up spending just as much if not more money replenishing the cheap items that don't last but a short time. Better to spend more now than to spend more later.

So those are my top five. Five more to come in the next post, but first, I want to see your top lessons learned! Everyone has a lesson learned that can be tied to a Biblical principle, so post below in the comments your top lessons learned, and I'll randomly select one of you to receive a "Quarter-Life Crisis Care Package." It'll contain all the essentials you need to get through one.

Monday, February 9, 2015

Reversing a Lie

A lot of people have different views on knowing God's will and such. It's such a popular topic that there are many books out there already written on the it. I wrote a blog post awhile back about it, but I found some renewed insight while studying the book of Acts.

Some people say, "You can't know God's will! It's impossible!" I would agree to a certain extent. We can't know every single detail about our lives concerning the future. It's not like we will receive a vision about what will happen in great detail every single day of our lifespan. To that extent, of course we can't know God's will for our life in that sense. But God has given us the Holy Spirit, and the Holy Spirit holds many roles. One in particular is written in John 16:13, referring to the Holy Spirit:

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.

According to this verse, we can know God's will concerning the future. The Holy Spirit gives us direction. The Holy Spirit has untold power that we can tap into at any time, just through prayer! We don't have to sit around wondering if we'll ever know God's will about a certain circumstance in life. We don't have to worry about the future. All we have to do is ask!

Monday, February 2, 2015

Changes . . .

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to shout out and let everyone know that I have not forgotten about blogging. I simply post most of my written work to Christian companies now. I will be updating my account and posting something within a week! If you'd like to follow some of my other writing outlets, you can find me here: - Search for "Ashlea" and you will find some of my devotions.

Boundless - Search for "Ashlea" and you will find a blog post I wrote.

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